Brandie7993

I have been with my husband for almost 10 years, married 6 years. Before kids, we did everything together, I went along on fishing trips and all that. We moved to a sort of rural area, and we have two kids, I'm a stay at home Mom, and he works a lot. In the past few years he has taken up hunting, and it's almost like an obsession. I don't mind him hunting, and he goes fishing a lot, and every summer he goes camping with his cousins (Which I used to go with him). Now since we have kids, he still does all these activities, and I stay home. He tells me I should go out with my friends, but all my friends are Moms that are with their families on the weekends. It doesn't seem fair, and when I talk to him about it, he gets mad and irritated with me. It wouldn't be a big deal, but he goes out on these trips sometimes twice a month for a whole weekend, on top of working long hours. I am starting to feel really disconnected and it makes me sad, he has always been my best friend. What should I do?

snake

tell him that.

Quixotic

Weekend-long trips twice a month is excessive in my opinion. You need to talk to him about it and figure out why he's avoiding you and not wanting to spend time with his family.

TammyF

insist on going with him,tell him you are lonely.

hsy454

You definitely need to make some changes. First, it's not only you he abandons on weekends. He is also abandoning your children. He needs to include the family in some of these outings. You need to sit and talk about what is bothering you. He either isn't aware there's a problem or he doesn't want the family with him. But you two definitely need to talk. Good luck.

Poppy

You really need to be telling him these things.

NeSsAbOo

ooooooo girl, im sorry boo but this sound lyke some broke back mountain type shyt, you man gotz a trick on the side, check him girl, whoop his azz

Jude

the other answers given here are valid but you also need to find something separate from him and the kids that is for you to do so that there is balance in your household.

You need to talk to him, get him to dedicate time to you and the family and then come up with an agreement where you both have one weekend a month to do your extracurricular activities.
To feel connected with him, you need to open up the channels of communication so that he can hear and understand how you are feeling.

Ashley0846

you need to talk to him about it. tell him everything that you feel. but don't turn it in to the blame game. find a way that you can both be happy. maybe he can go on a trip once a month?? maybe you two can have a date night once or twice a month. and you should go out with friends. take your kids too. it can be a play date for them. look up meetup.com there are so many fun things out there to do... you just got to take the time out to plan them. trust me...im having the same problem right now... i know it hurts, but we will both get though this.

TrilinieSarahS

He's developed relations in hunting without you now.

Maybe he now just wants to be out with his fishing and hunting buddies without your girlie talk around.

Why don't you get a horse and a baby sitter and go for rides in the country.
Women friends like to do that together.

Or you could say, Hey! We're married now. I don't want you going off wild!